Updated: Sep 17, 2018
The path will always be about softening. Of opening up deeper and deeper.
That means that when someone is mean to us we can show compassion instead of lashing back.
We always have a choice and we can also choose fear over love. We can choose to close up and walk away because their words and their actions are hurtful to us.
Or we can see what part of us that react to their words, sit with them and then mindfully see if there is a truth in what they say that we can use for our own growth. For our own healing.
Do their words come from a place of fear and their own inner wounds spilling out on to us. Can we then choose to not accept their pain but instead choose to open our own heart and let our love pour towards them with the wish for them to heal. Even through our own pain?
Often these decisions are not easy and before we even become conscious that there even was a choice to be made we have already reacted.
So then if we reacted can we choose to forgive ourselves and can we again choose to open up our heart to forgiveness, compassion and love? For our own process, for our own woundings, for our own reactiveness.
Know that we emotionally create habits just as we do when we've been physically harmed. If we know that we have been hurt before we will react before someone even gets close to that area of hurt.
That means that we can end up creating higher and bigger walls around ourselves. Around our own hearts, blocking ourselves from feeling that pain and ultimately blocking ourselves from healing. And blocking ourselves from feeling.
Know that the answer is always to soften. It doesn't mean that you allow someone to abuse you or to accept harm to you as a person. It means that you don't create bigger walls around you because of the fear of getting hurt again. It means that you open up to forgiving that person for spilling their pain over you. It means that you trust that Love is more powerful than anything.
Let Love rule, let the walls down. The softest is the strongest. The meek shall rule the earth. Let Love rule.